September 29th 2009 Posted at Inspired Habits
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It’s been 8 days.
93 more to go in the 101 acts of love challenge.
How is it going?
Here are some acts that have kicked off this week.
A special dinner.
A compliment given to a complete stranger.
A free ticket to an event.
A fundraising donation.
A spontaneous lunch.
A phone call.
A cupcake.
A word not spoken in anger.
There are many ways to show love.
In Gary Chapman’s book
“The Five Love Languages”
he describes how
knowing a person’s preferred love language
can be very powerful.
Words of affirmation.
Gifts.
Acts of service.
Time.
Touch.
This week I invite you to have at least one conversation
with someone you love
and discover their love language.
Then love ‘em up like crazy in it.
To languages of love,
Beth Hanishewski
Coach. Speaker. Author.
Mindset Coaching Inc.
September 28th 2009 Posted at Inspired Habits
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On my way home from dropping off the kids this morning I noticed this older man
feeding some ducks at the bird sanctuary. There he was tossing them a gaggle of
happy, squawking ducks some bread crumbs and I smiled as I drove by.
I thought “that man has meaning every time he heads across the road
from the retirement complex where he lives”.
I am pretty sure he isn’t the only one who feeds these very happy ducks.
But this morning, I imagine they feel like ‘his’ ducks.
Like it matters that he got out of bed.
Isn’t this what we all want?
To contribute.
To have meaning in our lives.
For it to matter that we showed up.
May you take a bit of time today to be intentional about what you do.
Take a bit more of a ‘pause’ for another person or creature that crosses your path.
Maybe we can’t all stop by a bird sanctuary today and have a moment.
However I bet if we slow down just a tad and remember that every time we create
a ‘pause’ and be present in the now
instead of what-do-I-need-to-do-next,
we create more meaning.
As for me, I plan on pausing as much as possible today.
Beth Hanishewski
Coach. Speaker. Author.
Mindset Coaching Inc.
September 22nd 2009 Posted at Inspired Habits
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Yup, just two.
Love
and
a Call for Love.
Do you know the difference?
Love is fairly recognizable.
It’s those calls for love that are the more slippery suckers.
Because
calls for love are often in the form of
rude comments
nasty habits
bad moods
and generally less-than-feel-good interactions.
But I have a call for love I think you will like.
Today marks the first day of autumn
Fall Equinox
and not only it is a good day to dig out your sweaters
it also happens to mark 101 days left of 2009.
And 101 days to love more.
Ready to play?
I propose a little love game.
For the next 101 days, can you love MORE?
More deeply.
More expressively.
More obviously.
More over-the-top
More with actions than you have all year?
I do not care who you love more
- one person or 101 -
but what I do care about however is that it is ACTIVE love
for the next 101 days.
Of course, little acts of love count
but I encourage you to be a bit (more) outrageous.
Because if I did one act for 101 days
and
you did an act of love for 101 days
and
the people you know did an act of love for 101 days
well, you do the math.
That’s a whole lotta love!
Go public below if you want to get on the “love bus”where we can
swap stories, get ideas and generally have a place to celebrate love (more).
Beth Hanishewski
Coach. Speaker. Author.
Mindset Coaching Inc.
September 17th 2009 Posted at Inspired Habits
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I am working out today.
And do you know why?
It’s not because I am a highly motivated workout bunny.
It’s not because I feel guilty about the wine and hydrogenated snacks I ate last night.
And it’s not because I have nothing else to do today.
Nope.
There is only one reason I am dressed in my workout gear and planning to sweat.
My friends.
Because my friends are serious work-er-outers.
They are the types that get up on Saturdays and run hills,
become certified yoga instructors,
teach their own spin classes,
eat really, really healthy,
sign up for big fat races,
look gorgeous
and generally put my own feeble attempts at having a regular fitness regime to shame.
And thank goodness!
Because…
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn
And if I spend time with die-hard-work-er-outers, just by the law of averages, I am bound to get in shape just by hanging with them. Love it.
It’s quite fantastic.
The best part if, it works in EVERY realm of your life.
Don’t believe me?
Try it out.
Here is a little coaches challenge for you:
Write down the
five people you spend the most time with.
Then compare your health, relationship, spirituality and bank accounts.
You will be amazed at how similar they are.
Next pick ONE area of your life you want to grow
and then
find ONE other person who has “more” than you in this area
and invite them to be your new best friend. :-)
One caveat:
You do
not have to fire your non-healthy, non-happy, non-spiritual or broke friends!
Just
add a new one into your mix and see what happens.
And of course, I want to hear all about it.
To raising your average,
Beth Hanishewski
Coach. Speaker. Author.
Mindset Coaching Inc.
September 16th 2009 Posted at Coaching, Inspired Habits
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First a share.
When I first started coaching in 2004 I would coach anyone who would pay me.
Then I started to specialize in “briefcase goddesses” (or versions of myself!).
Then I started working also with couples who were in relationship turmoil.
And now, it’s raining men.
In the last month, four men have joined my practice
with the same ask:
“Can you teach me how to be a better man?”
I am humbled and awed by these men who have the courage to say
“I am great at business but not with women”.
It is my divine pleasure to share
the secrets of the feminine
the keys to creating connection (even during an argument!)
and
how to provide a woman her highest value (safety!).
In short, the path to being a warrior.
And so, since I am having so many conversations with men about the same things
I am inspired to create a “man club”.
A place where men can ask ANY question
and get the truth.
Because it is one thing to intellectually understand
that the feminine is unpredictable, changeable, intuitive and spontaneous
but it is quite another
to know what to
do when you have a feminine fully expressing herself in your life.
And because I am a “two” (that’s enneagram talk”)
I want to help.
Here is my ask:
If you know (or are a man reading this!)
who could benefit from someone objective answering any question at all about the mysteries of the feminine,
I will spill all the beans on a special call.
Just for men.
For those interested, email me with the message
“I want the scoop”
and call details will be provided.
1 hour.
1 coach.
Any question you have about relationships with women.
Email: mindsetcoaching@gmail.com for call specifics.
To open-hearted men,
Beth Hanishewski
Coach. Speaker. Author.
Mindset Coaching Inc.
September 14th 2009 Posted at Inspired Habits
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I love books.
I mean really, really love them.
I own, order, recommend and read heaps of them every year.
This is one I am reading now:
“10-10-10″ by Suzy Welch who claims that when faced with
making any decision, putting it into this simple formula can change your life.
Or at least the course of it.
You are simply to ask yourself the question that is at the heart of the matter
and then consider what are the consequence of this decision…
in the next
10 minutes?
10 months?
and 10 years?
It is amazing what shifts and illuminates when put into this formula.
And don’t you just love simple formulas? I sure do.
A few years ago I compiled a list of my favorite resources for my clients
and I realize recently that it could use some updating.
However before I add a few gems that I have read I wold love to hear from
you.
What are YOUR favorite books or resources that you reach for?
Send me their titles and if you do, please include a wee blurb about why you love it so.
Can’t wait!
To reading inspired,
Beth Hanishewski
Coach. Speaker. Author.
Mindset Coaching Inc.
September 8th 2009 Posted at Inspired Habits
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Emotions can be such wonderful, awful, confusing and telling things don’t you think?
Often I am asked heartbreaking questions such as:
“why do you suppose this happened?”
or
“why do I feel so lousy/angry/sad about this?”
or
“when are things going to get better?”
The full range of the emotional spectrum hits us when we find ourselves in a place other than happy.
So what to do about it?
A client of mine and I brainstormed about his very thing last week
and we came up a three options for handling emotions.
Here they are:
Door #1: Sit in them.
Sometimes I feel sad and I think “I should do something to raise my vibration or cheer myself up”.. That’s what conscious people do. They do not wallow right?” Well that’s the trouble with judging my emotion rather than just sitting in them. I deprive myself of my own process. I believe that it is perfectly okay to not be happy every moment and just allow your emotions to flow through you rather get all caught up in questions like “why am I feeling this way?” just to be okay with the fact that that’s what is right now.
or
Door #2: Use them.
This option is for when you tire of sitting in them or would prefer a bit more active approach. Emotions are of course e-motion or energy in motion so why not use them? No matter what you are feeling – sad, mad, anxious, confused, frustrated or scared, you can channel them into virtually any activity. Personally the house cleaning one works for me. When I am upset and I get out my vacuum cleaner I am always amazed at how much better I feel when I have sucked up some dog hair and dirt. I wish I could say I go workout but alas, no. Maybe you though…?
or
Door #3: Enjoy them.
Okay, obviously this is for the happier variety but truly all emotions can be enjoyed in the right context. Ever had a “good cry” during a sappy movie (my last big bawl-fest was during “My Sister’s Keeper”) or know people that love a scary thriller? We may prefer to enjoy the vibration of joy, love and gratitude and find ways to conjure them up even in the darkest hours, but the point is, this is an option.
There you go.
If any of you out there have some other ones, I’d love to hear them.
In the meantime, keep feeling.
It means you dare to live open-hearted.
To e-motions,
Beth Hanishewski
Coach. Speaker. Author.
Mindset Coaching Inc.
September 1st 2009 Posted at Inspired Habits
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Yesterday I was getting my nails done with my friend Val
and ten fingers later, we managed to cover the juiciest of topics
and plan a healing workshop for women.
I love those kind of conversations.
The best part is she shared a story of an incredible story that happened
when she was a supporter in a workshop. There in a room was 25
participants from all over the country and somehow two people there
found themselves with an incredible connection.
One woman, a daughter who had lost her mother
and the other, a nurse who felt responsible for her mother’s death.
Whoa. What healing happened as a result.
And Val says to me:
“You know how it is.
Sometimes there is just no other explanation than to say “God showed up”.
Indeed.
To say this inspired the writer in me is the understatement of the year.
“When God Showed Up” could be some book.
And so I am officially putting it out there.
I am on a mission to collect stories from people like you.
Who have experienced a divine moment, an intervention
or some sort of “coincidence” that just felt like a miracle.
Big or small.
I am interested in them all.
Write to me and tell me about a time when there is just no other way to say it but that “God showed up” for you.
I can’t wait to read them.
To miracles,
Beth Hanishewski
Coach. Speaker. Author.
Mindset Coaching Inc.
